That's one thing about HP fandom that I actually eally dislike, is the whole weird fetishisation of EVERYTHING -- as if the writing doesn't matter, a long as the kinks are in there. And they're all so specific!

I know exactly what you mean. It's one of the reasons I don't write or read much slash in HP anymore. Not only has it all been done, but so much feels prurient rather than plotty. It's downright depressing.