Oh, god, I don't even know where to start with that.

yes, i too was left staring at my screen in horror and confusion.

Claiming your desires make you a better, more enlightened human being than those other perverts out there is no different than saying that the stuff you like is Sophisticated Erotica, and the stuff everyone else likes is filthy porn, and I got tired of that particular discussion about a million years ago.

people don't want to like something that can be likened to girl on girl, because it's tacky and makes them think of bros and fratboys. they want it to be better than that, cooler, more edgy, more meaningful. well, most of the people streaming into sherlock holmes fandom right now didn't watch the guy ritchie film and think, "wow, this is so interesting. i wonder how i can invert the heteronormative, sexist paradigm by adopting these male avatars to tell a story rich in meaningful cultural expression." they thought, "these guys are hot. time for a kinkmeme!"

and yes, i shall have lots of fun in utah with family types! it'll be good.