I could go on and on about how Rose ruined the Doctor, how she ruined him two series after she left.

i can only agree with that on a meta level, i.e. the way rose was written did not reflect well on the doctor. within the show, however, well. i just can't get behind blaming the GIRL (deliberate usage of "girl" as opposed to "woman") in a situation in which all the power was held by THE MAN and he created the circumstances and in fact encouraged her weird behaviour.

also, i'm not trying to say rose has zero compassion, because obviously she does have compassion. just that compassion is really not her strongest point, as a character. being charming, funny, brave, sure.